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@rysiek@mstdn.socialOk, look: I know it feels bad being "accused" of #mansplaining. I know that most of the time we're "just trying to be helpful." I've been on both sides of this.
Here's the thing — if the person you're trying to be helpful to tells you that you are not being helpful, that's that. Accept it, apologize, and move on. 
Trying to "explain" and "clarify" will only make you look more like a jerk. Just don't. 
Instead, you can go and (re)read this stellar piece of advice:
https://anotherangrywoman.com/2023/01/18/how-to-give-advice-on-the-internet-without-being-an-utter-menace/ 
@rysiek I only reply when there is a question mark. That rule is sexist, as i only apply it to women (accounts presenting as such). 
Edit: Everyone not understanding read OP's linked article. It explains it very well.
@rysiek This happens to me once in a while. Most of our rural broadband customer here in Eastern Poland are farmers or technical workers, or coal miners, but then you get an expert on BGP . And some of the young farmers know a lot about connecting to the Internet – they've been struggling to get reasonable performance from shitty connections for years. And if they do need advice I try to find out what is it that they don't understand and work through the problem.
@rysiek Thank you for sharing this 
This article gives good advices, like your toot too 
@rysiek I've noticed as a transfem person that the more and more I outwardly present as fem that the base level of my knowledge is assumed to be lower (in non queer spaces anyway)
Honestly often it feels like a waste of effort to explain that I do know how *insert topic* works. I'm early enough in transition that I'm often perceived as an amab cis person, so I still get some of the benefits of that and yet I'm still mansplained to. I wonder how other ppl navigate being on the recieving end?
