So I'm speaking Spanish with a client and we do our thing and they leave. The next person behind them is a wiry, thin, older, mountain looking kind of guy.
Where'd you learn how to do that? What? Speak Spanish that was cool Oh I'm still learning but thank you No really I don't think I could make those noises with my mouth that was pretty neat.
We are all intentional beings, we must exercise our agency to feel empowered in our own lives and to actualize our truest sense of self.
As intentional beings, when we meet each other out in the world, we must respect that we are co-creating this life by respecting each others choice and freedom to do as we will. To, by word or action, disallow or invalidate the choice of another being is to do violence to them.
When we plan a surprise for someone, we remove their ability to choose. We can get lost in our own feelings about the surprise, the look on their face when, how meaningful we think the gift will be to them (our to our self), thinking they will love this.
You may have no idea what traumas someone has or what triggers lie undiscovered, they may not even know themselves. You have no idea what landmines you may step on that will hurt them, which is probably not what you intend.
As a culture in the West, we normalize being grateful for gifts, being grateful for someone expending resources on your behalf, especially if you didn't ask for it. Your choice is removed by surprises because you were never even given the chance to say no, or even yes!
Spoil the surprise. Always ask if someone would like you to get them that thing or plan a special event for their occasion. Don't assume, a surprise is never about you, it's about the person you may hurt.
I watched an old favorite movie to decompress, a weird #western#comedy called McLintock with John Wayne #movies#relax
After having seen it at least 15 times in my life, today I learned the handsome young lead is Wayne's actual son! And Wayne's very young daughter has a small role too #TIL
#TELEVISION Marvel Studios promet une conclusion épique avec la saison 3 de What If…?
La #bandeannonce de la troisième et dernière #saison de la #série animée What If…? a été dévoilée par #MarvelStudios. Prévue pour le 22 décembre 2024, cette saison de huit épisodes s’annonce riche en #surprises, avec de nouveaux #personnages et des #intrigues audacieuses qui marqueront un tournant dans l’#univers du multivers #Marvel. Découvrez la bande-annonce sur ActuaNews...
Winter always surprises me so. The cold, while beautiful, keeps me tentative. But then the charm of the sun, the freshness of the air, the traditions, and you have me once again.
'tis the season that small children get very affectionate, people go out without coats, & sleep is confused. Then we find out our loving family has shared both stories & germs, & we are getting ready for holiday closeness early.