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#emotionalabuse

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Kalvin :mastodon:

I found that this is one of the (progressive) tactics used to manipulate and silence dissent... "DARVO"

D ← Deny
A ← Attack
R, V & O ← Reverse victim and the offender

Person A: "You lied to me!"
Person B:
"I didn’t lie! (Deny)
You’re so paranoid. (Attack)
You’re the one always twisting my words—now I can’t even trust *you*! (Reverse Victim & Offender)

#DARVO#PsychologicalManipulation#Gaslighting
Aya
Sometimes, the things people call love or friendship are the same things that hurt us most.

This comic is about that confusion. That deep bone-level dissonance when someone insists they care for you while causing pain, control, fear, or lasting harm.

For so many of us who grew up in abusive environments, the lines between love and harm were blurred from the start. The people who should have protected us were the ones teaching us that “this is family,” “this is friendship,” “this is romance,” or “this is pleasure,” when what they really meant was: this is what I need you to accept in order to stay close to me.

And the worst part is that sometimes we believed them.

Luna stands in for so many of us in this moment. For survivors, for neurodivergent and disabled kids who were isolated and gaslit, for queer and trans folks who were told their pain was just sensitivity, for people of color whose boundaries were crushed by generational trauma, for anyone who has ever had to unlearn the idea that being hurt was part of being loved.

If this comic hits close to home, we hope you know: you are not alone. Love should never make you question your worth or safety. You deserve gentleness, consent, joy, and healing. And no matter what anyone told you, you were never too much.

✨ If you’re comfortable, feel free to share your thoughts or story in the comments. You never know who might feel less alone because you did.

#traumahealing #cptsd #neurodivergent #queer #lgbtq #disabled #ptsd #emotionalabuse #trauma #adayintheluna
#adayintheluna
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Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:

If you cannot go no contact your next best bet is #greyRocking or #yellowRocking. You become non-reactive to their actions. You stay calm, controlled, rational, and emotionally disengaged. It's hard but possible.

When you do that you take away the abuser's power over you. They no longer can control you through your emotions. Just be prepared: they'll most likely double down on the abuse before accepting the fact that you can no longer be controlled by them. And they'll most likely never stop probing you as long as you are still in contact with them.

If you can go no contact. Do it for yourself. You deserve better.

#abuse#emotionalAbuse#narcissisticAbuse
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Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:

Breaking the #traumaBond that binds you to your abuser is hard work. You literally go through the stages of grief, as part of breaking it requires you to let go of the shared delusion that your abuser is a "good person".

This means that you lose the person you thought they were. All while potentially still interacting with them. All while potentially still being subjected to their manipulations.

This is why people recommend going no contact. Healing from abuse requires you to re-center yourself in your reality, in your perception. And that results in your abuser having less control. Spoiler: they don't want that.

#abuse#emotionalAbuse#narcissisticAbuse
Kalvin Carefour Johnny

I used to attend a university for a diploma in computer engineering. After a few semesters, I decided to stop studying there. I needed to withdraw. However, what they call "student peers"—I am not sure what the term is in English—were being reductionist and maximalist regarding the official documents, stating that I had already agreed to and chosen the university and the study program in the online application form. This is not fair. I believe it is important to treat each person as an individual, as a whole person, rather than merely considering what I have done to prevent me from leaving. I wasn't there to fulfill their collectivist culture, believing I should prioritize the university's name and dignity at the cost of my own. At the moment, I want to take a break from writing this, as my mind is troubled by thoughts of my past, including the emotional abuse I experienced from the university staff. Unfair, right?

#StudentRights#InstitutionalRigidity#FairTreatment
Kalvin Carefour Johnny

Guess who is exploiting and taking advantage of my vulnerability and trust? My uncle. He can use any of my mistakes that he finds to justify bullying and mocking me. I don't even have money to pay for his liquid petroleum gas for cooking. I am really sad, and no one cares. I am still a student with so many debts that I can't pay. It's around RM50,000. What does he expect? Taking advantage of me? Using my inability to pay his bills and for LPG, and when I'm at my worst, it's time for him to kick me out of his house. I am actually homeless. But that terribly destroyed house doesn't count. My father wanted me to stay at my uncle's house for stable electricity. #FamilyIssues #Struggle #Support #Homeless #StudentLife #Debt #EmotionalAbuse #Bullying #Vulnerability #Trust #Hope #Vent #MentalHealth #IAmTheProduct #MutualAid #NoOneCares

aidyspoetry

In this gripping psychological horror tale, the shadows of betrayal and manipulation take on a life of their own. A woman confronts the demon within her partner, uncovering a truth more insidious than she ever imagined. Will she escape the shadows, or will they consume her?

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#theunraveling #psychologicalthriller #psychologicalabuse #PsychologicalHorror #gaslighting #storytelling #mentalhealth #emotionalabuse

medium.com/@aidyspoetry/the-de

A surreal horror digital image by Sandy Hoffman set in a dimly lit room. A man, twisted with rage, is enveloped by pulsating shadows and a grotesque demon with glowing red eyes looming behind him. A defiant woman holding a glowing phone stands in the foreground, shadows retreating around her feet, embodying determination and defiance in an oppressive, dramatic atmosphere. Follow her journey into the psychological horror of a toxic relationship on Medium.com/@aidyspoetry
Medium · The Demon's Grasp: Shadows and Secrets | by Sandy Hoffman | MediumBy Sandy Hoffman
Educate Yourself

Although both #men & #women are affected by narcissism, women are much more prone to this life-damaging abuse(abused by both men and other women).
These are just a few words from some women who went through it and survived, some dont.

"I am very old now but I have only just discovered about covert narcissists, and realise these are the people I have had in my life all the time, from childhood. I am now on my own but others think it is because I am the awful one because I do not have anything to do with these people anymore including my own children, who turned out like their dad, a narcissist. Life feels very lonely."

"My marriage was shaky from day one, but when I said to the narcissist that we could go into counselling to try and sort things out, he said, 'Why should I do that when it isn't my fault, it's yours.' You can't discuss anything with these individuals; In the end, after 40 years of marriage, I was the one that said 'Goodbye' to our fractured relationship."

"My son was recently in an accident where he was seriously hurt but will recover just fine. My sister asked me if I cried when I found out because she cried her eyes out. Like it was a weird, creepy competition on who was more hurt. Who the hell competes over something like that? The weirdness never ends
Very low contact. I look back at what I used to put up with and can't believe I'm sane."

Literally, you will go "crazy " trying to figure them out. Life is too short...RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN.

#Trauma #Abuse [#DomesticAbuse #SexualAbuse #MentalAbuse #EmotionalAbuse #ChildAbuse #DigitalAbuse #TechnologyAbuse #GenderAbuse #Bullying #Harassment #Violence #Deception #Tragedy ] #SelfAbsorption #SelfCentredness #Selfishness #Jealousy #Envy #Hate #Bigotry #Psychopathy #Narcissism #Narcissists #Sadism #Egoism #Selfishness #Spitefulness #Wars

#Empathy #Compassion #Kindness #Love #Peace
#GenuineConnection #Awareness #Freedom #Children #Parenting #Fatherhood #Motherhood #Family #Marriages #Growth #Change #Life #World

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