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Someone in a discord I'm in shared these two sites & I thought I'd spread them around. If you or someone you know can get pregnant, you can order these abortion pills. They have a shelf life of 10 years and they ship to all 50 states. Probably best to get them now, before they become illegal.
womenonweb.org/

There's also this, too. Which is an article on how to safely give yourself a home abortion. jewishcurrents.org/how-to-give

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After letting off steam in a couple political rants, this little fellow reflects my present mood. 😣​

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I have encountered more image descriptions on Mastodon in 24 hours than I have in Twitter in a couple of years. Seriously. I'm not exaggerating.
As a blind person, this means a lot to me. If you read this and you describe your images, thank you so, so, so much on behalf of all of us. If you don't, now you know you'll be helping random Internet strangers make sense of your posts by typing in a few more words than usual.

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Hi! I’m Nutmeg. I’m a Holland Lop #rabbit living in Vermont.

My favorite things are eating, thumping, running and doing binkys. I hate it when stupid humans clean or move my things.

Nutmeg is salty about being called away from his bunstruction project.

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As a parent (and a human being): I believe that #TransRightsAreHumanRights.
As a librarian: I believe that kids should read what tf they want.
As an adoptee: I believe that parents do not own their children.
These are deeply connected beliefs.

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I 'could' upgrade de servers once more.. That way we guaranteed stability but, if I where to do that the total costs for all my Fedi services servers would exceed ~€640 something per mont :amaze:​ The only way I can do this if we can at least ~€400 per month donated :amaze:​ Otherwise I'm gonna risk my home etc... if that goes bad all is gone so that's no option 😟

CW: #infertility & #adoption 

8. I implore people who are compelled to adopt in response to infertility or because they "just want to help", to prioritize the needs and best interests of children and to take whatever funds they would have put towards adoption fees and use them to support struggling families in their communities.

I deeply wish that adults would stop centering their needs and desires at the expense of children's needs and well-being.

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7. Adoption is not a solution to infertility. Infertility is not being able to conceive or carry your own child. Adoption is raising someone else's. Raising any baby will not cure grief, but adoption will cause trauma for the adoptee and birthparents.

Adopting a child after infertility means that the child(ren) was the second/third/fourth choice, which is the opposite of what adopted children need from their caregivers.

Adopting a child after infertility puts exorbitant pressure on the adopted child(ren) to mitigate their adoptive parents' grief, to be the replacement for the biological children they really wanted, and to destroy themselves to become more like their new family.

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4. My experience growing up without my own genetic identity, and dealing with the grief and loss of family separation was infinitely more painful and isolating than living with infertility.

5. I can’t and won’t speak for donor-conceived people, but I’m listening and hearing a lot of commonality with adoptees feelings about genetic identity.

6. The pain of adults dealing with infertility is not more than the pain of family separation, and it is not more important than the pain of children.

No one has an inherent right to be a parent. No one has the right to someone else's child.

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3. Dealing with infertility as an adopted person has been brutal. Everywhere I turn, whether it’s at the fertility clinic, doing research about our options, or seeking support from friends and family, I’m smacked with messages that callously disregard the needs of children in an effort to meet the desires of adults. 


“Are you exploring egg/sperm/embryo donation?”

“What about surrogacy?”

"You can always adopt!”

These questions and conversations never include considering the impact of these decisions on the children they are about; the only feelings that are centered are those of those making the decision.

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2. Growing up as an adopted person, without genetic mirroring, with more questions than answers about my original family, my own story, my genetic identity, and being forced to mold myself to a new adoptive family was deeply painful, isolating, and traumatic.

Societal views and commentary about adoption being beautiful, positive and adoptees being lucky, blessed, and chosen were further isolating and invalidating my experience. When the world told me as a child I should be grateful and not grieving, I learned I was alone. When the world told me that love, not genetics makes a family, I heard that my need to know my own genetic identity made me broken, difficult, ungrateful, unworthy.

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1. is painful. For many, having children is a lifelong dream and foundational to our expectations for our lives, our relationships, and our roles in society. To be confronted with the reality that these dreams may never come true, that our bodies will fail us in this most basic way is painful. Many folks with infertility struggles report feeling "less than" or "broken". To completely reimagine ourselves and our lives as involuntarily childless is difficult and fraught and isolating.

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It’s and as a person who is both struggling with infertility and an adopted person, I have many thoughts about this topic.

Most importantly, adoption is not a solution to infertility.

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